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How Are You?

“HOW ARE YOU?” How many times we are asked this question? Innumerable, uncountable, may be the maximum number of times. It’s so common to ask this question. Sometimes we don’t even feel that it’s a question.  “I’m good”, “I’m doing good”, “I’m OK”, “I’m fine” etc. Our answers are so simple, so quick in general …

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The Secret to Letting Go (And Why It’s Okay if You Can’t Right Now)

Instead of loving myself, I was pouring all my time and energy into someone else. My family and friends knew what was happening, and they told me I needed to accept that he didn’t love me back, but I didn’t listen to them. I was on a high, addicted to the dopamine rush of seeing …

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Why I No Longer Chase Emotionally Unavailable People, Hoping They’ll Change

Every little thing became focused on other people—how I behaved, how I dressed, how I worked. I would mindread, try to control how people perceived me, and stretch beyond my limits to show up for people who probably never even cared about me.   That is exactly what happened with the boy I loved. My …

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How I’m Overcoming Codependency and the Need to Prove My Worth

Embarrassment doesn’t even cover the emotions I feel now. There is also a lot of guilt and pain.   When I was kid, I learned by watching my parents to sacrifice myself and show up for others before myself.   Gradually, my sense of self become entwined with others. I only felt worthy when I …

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